It’s a hell yes, or it’s a no

The physiological human makeup is all connected. Feelings while largely equated as emotional, are holistic responses to experiences in life. Something out of the norm occurs and the sensation of feeling, if you truly sit with it, is felt throughout the human body.

We make thousands of choices in any given day, some conscious while many are unconscious. Choices drive a significant amount of our life experiences both directly and indirectly. When faced with a conscious choice, a quick pause and evaluation of your holistic reaction is the natural response.

A friend recently asked me a series of challenging questions on life, pursuit of goals, and impact I aspire to have. I consistently responded, “I don’t know.” This was my way of deferring and not wanting to answer the hard questions. It would be exposing; it would force me to lean into my confidence and purpose. It would put me at risk of failure if I didn’t convert. So, I deferred – it’s not that I don’t know the answer. We DO know, we just don’t want to own the answer and commitment that comes along with saying it aloud.

He did something no one else has done, point blank called me out and told me to lose those words from my vocabulary. I do know, and accepting my answer was the first part.

I think back to pivotal life decisions and the ones that worked out favorably and those that were hard experiences and lessons. It is 100% consistent in that I knew, wholly from my gut, head, and heart what I should do. More of a 50/50 outcome on whether I listened – the outcome directly tied to whether or not I did.

As I’m writing this, I know I’m convicted on this platform and leaning into the space of service through awareness of and healing from abuse. I’ve deferred writing posts because it’s uncomfortable. I asked myself if I’m convicted – hell yes. Then just go, do, create, and lean into the plan.

Time goes by so quickly and if you don’t use it, you lose it. No more sitting on the “hell yeses” and no more wasted time on the “no’s.”

The answer is never “I don’t know,” you DO know. The gut reaction tells you throughout your body what is aligned and in service of you, it’s a hell yes or it’s a no.